Tuesday, 10 February 2009

TO - 02/10 - don’t bother staring at me… I’m feeling brave with my Fedora…

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
~~ Eleanor Roosevelt

We use phrases all the time like "that situation made me feel…" or "that person made me feel..." or "you make feel...", but those are inaccurate statements. We experience the situation or person's words, internalize them, process them, and then... we judge them and decide how we want to feel about them. Yes, this is often an unconscious process; but that doesn't make it less real.

As Eleanor Roosevelt points out in her quote, we decide to feel inferior or less than or upset or even in some cases, happy.

Don't get me wrong - I'm not saying that the situation or person or words are somehow OK. Maybe they are, maybe they're not - only you know. But how we interpret the experience is up to us.

We get to decide if we will ALLOW someone else or a situation to result in us feeling bad. We get to decide if we interpret an experience as demeaning - even if everyone else would agree with us.

You also get to decide if the person/situation is really all about them and what's going on with them and decide that you are still an amazing, wonderful, giving, important, loved person.

Next time you find yourself in a not-so-empowering situation, remember...

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

To all my dear readers and blogging friends in Australia I hope that everything is fine with you and beloved ones.
May God help the ones who are suffering. Sending good vibrations to all.

rubi shoes - La Redoute
black wide-legs pants - C&A Clockhouse
gray belt - Stradivarius
red sweater - Vero Moda
red cardigan - Mango
black scarf - United Colours of Benetton
black and white retro style coat - local store
red gloves - Details
gray handbag - Mango
black fedora hat - Zara
necklace - mainland store
bracelet - gift
lipstick - Esté Lauder
perfume - Noa from Cacharel


  1. Red is your color, and I really like the proportions in this outfit. The jacket and trousers are very good together.

  2. Love your outfit!
    I join you in wishing all the best to the ones that are suffering in Australia.

  3. Perfect classic chic, darling!

    Have a great day and hugs: Janet

  4. I love it when women wear hats ;) They always have this class when they wear hats! Like you!

  5. I love that quote. It kind of reminds me of The Four Agreements book I read. It's all about how we internalize everything and when someone says something bad to us or about us, it has nothing to do with us...it is all their own crap.
    You look great.

  6. as Enc said!

    Red is totally your color!

    You look great in that Outfit!

    All my love
    Juan !


  7. Love, love, love your color combinations. Your outfits from Monday and Tuesday are great examples of other blogs that I've been reading about adding color to our outfits. And the quote from Eleanor R. is one of my FAV! When I first read it, years ago, I really had to think about it, but when I got it it made perfect sense and I have used it often to encourage myself.

  8. WOW! You are one sexy lady! I bet there were men staring everywhere:) You look absolutely stunning in this outfit darling, and I mean it. It's probably my favorite outfit of you! :)
    I totally agree with you. It really is sad how people give away their power to be happy. THey say- " oh, he makes me mad" or " she makes me it! " or " they ruined my life" and etc, etc. Since when do we have no choice over our feelings and actions?

    It's interesting how we always seem to be thinking about the same subjects:)



  9. Your look today was SO COOL I'm jealous!!

    I hope you're better now, at least you look more colourful :)

  10. super classy outfit :)
    and yes, all the fires in australia. :( god bless you guys.

  11. Olá! Amo quando vc usa vermelho!
    Ótima reflexão!
    Bjão pra vc!

  12. Very very good point. I fail at times to remind myself that but thank goodness I have a friend like you :)

    x Grayburn

  13. i love this quote: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
    love u! and that fedora! mwah!

  14. You look so fancy!
    Love Fedoras!

    Where are you from Seeker?
    I would like to know becouse I love the places you take photos :)

    a kiss,
    see you,

  15. Grey and red go so well together. You look perfectly elegant! And the hat is the perfect finish for the whole outfit.

  16. that hat looks fantastic on you!

  17. So true. Too often we forget that we control our reactions to everything that comes into our lives. It can be challenging, but we CAN give negativity less credence if we try.

    You ROCK that amazing fedora.

  18. so classy and fabulous!!! love this quote "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." so true xoxo

  19. Seeker honey that quote is so powerful.how we carry ourselves is how people will perceive us. also its important to love ourselves and thus accept no disrespect from others.
    you look amazing in that fedora,im such a lover of hats and they always look so good on you.
    muah x

  20. Hi dear Seeker!
    That is a very encouraging and motivating quote you chose. Thankyou.
    Your fedora fits you really well. I love it.
    That little coat is cute too, it fits your style well.
    Yup, I picked the award you gave me! Thank you once again for it! I will take my time in picking people who I want to pass it on to soon too!

    Kisses and Hugs,

  21. you are such a wise woman! these words are great. you make me feel so much better ;) with my consent^^
    that look is sooo adorable!!! i love the red accents and that hat is amazing! really really great.


  22. Wow Seeker, This is a VERY flattering outfit on you. I love it!

  23. Darling...you say beautiful and true words <3
    I'm totally fall in love with this outfit (shoes are delicious*)
    Luv & kisses

  24. I love the red in your outfit! You really can wear hats, they look always great on you!

  25. Hey Seeker. You look stunning! and as always so eloquent...

  26. You are so fabulous! xoxo

    And that quote changed my life when I heard it years ago...it changes how you look at the world.

    Thank you for sharing, and reminding me.

  27. SO COOL!!!!

    This:"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
    is so true! ...but sometimes people get caught in the victim role and find it hard to get out.

  28. That is so absolutely true! We choose how we want to feel about things and our perspective of life, consciously or unconciously. I can also recommend the book "Emotional Intelligence" by David Goleman which explains why we feel certain feelings and how we can train ourselves to a happier life through controlling our feelings. A must-read!

    And you look gorgeous as always! So French!

  29. i adore those shoes! and enc is right - red is your color!

  30. Love this outfit - you look great in mid-rise wide leg trousers - I love this on you.

  31. I always love your quotes and wise words <3

    You look amazing in your fedora - sharp and strong and funky! I love it. xxx


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